10 Aug HOW DO I HELP MY FAMILY THROUGH SEPARATION AND DIVORCE
HOW DO I HELP MY FAMILY THROUGH SEPARATION AND DIVORCE. Separation and divorce are a traumatic event for the whole family, especially the kids. They can see the two most important people they love the most in the world hurting each other. It is so important for parents to be good role models, problem solvers and minimise conflict which comes with such a highly emotionally charged event. The feelings of loss, sadness and uncertainty that comes from grief, grips the whole family. Your whole world is impacted, emotionally, financially, and your future security. Your children look to you to get them through this crisis without them becoming collateral damage. Seeking the help that you need to empower you through your separation journey will accelerate your recovery so you can rebuild your life and transition your family to the new family structure.
Contemplating separation can take a long time to conclude that it is the path you want to take. You may feel there is so much to lose by leaving and yet the cost of unhappiness to stay can feel stifling.
Separation and divorce are not something as parents we have been prepared for. We can become very reactive to the turmoil and chaos that has seized our life. Gaining insights into the emotional rollercoaster, tapping into our strengths, understanding the impacts on the children and minimise conflict through healthy communication from the Parenting after Separation course empowers parents through this traumatic family event.
The feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and sadness can manifest into anger, where you can not only lash out to those that have hurt you but also to those helping you. Gaining the coping strategies and techniques from the Anger management course can help you control anger, rather than anger control you, bringing calm amidst the chaos.
HOW DO I HELP MY FAMILY THROUGH SEPARATION AND DIVORCE
Parenting toddlers and pre-schoolers can be hard at the best of times, but as a single parent can be very challenging as you try to help little ones who cannot regulate their emotions, voice their needs or become unsettled when routines destabilise.
Empowering Teenagers amidst the grief as they witness the security of the family unit crumble before them. There is the loss of ‘home’ as they straddle life between mum’s house and dad’s house trying to stay loyal to both whilst guilt and sadness overwhelm them.
It can be difficult negotiating when emotions are high with every attempt to discuss property settlement or shared parenting which can lead to more conflict and pain. Mediation with a third party to facilitate decoupling to agree on future needs and a fair outcome provides a forum for future focused agreement.
Home life can be chaotic amidst major change which can impact productivity at work. It is hard to focus on deadlines, be engaged with clients or motivated to achieve when your thoughts are consumed with separation and divorce. The loss at home can quickly transgress into the workplace threatening job security without the help to manage the challenges at home and at work.
Life can take on a robotic existence after coming out of the traumatic event of separation and divorce, fearful of new relationships or major change that could cause your world to come crashing down around you again. The Accelerated recovery course can help you let go and move on to create the life you deserve.
The Divorce Centre offers Divorce Coaching, Mediation, Online courses and informative blogs to help separated families through the challenges of separation and divorce to a rebuilt life. Visit the website to gain the support you need – https://www.thedivorcecentre.com.au/
Author – Cheryl Duffy, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Author
written for https://www.positivethinkingclinic.com.au